May 27, 2020
#127:
“Somewhere around 40 or 45, a movement toward the father happens naturally; a desire to see him more clearly and draw closer to him.”
- Iron John, by Robert Bly
Over Memorial Day Weekend, I took a father-son trip with Dom Sr. to The Catskills.
I wanted to thank him for something he did for me at age 11…
…that is in part, highly responsible for my work in the world today.
The funny thing is, I only came to the realization within the last few weeks that my father forever altered the trajectory of my life in the most powerful of ways.
You see, if you’re like me…
Your view of your father has likely become static...fixed...over time.
This holds true whether your father is alive, dead or alive and not part of your life.
There’s a certain fixed lens through which you view him:
“That’s just how he is…”
“He would never do that…”
“He always…”
It’s as if you’ve seen all there is to see.
Known all there is to know.
When you view your father through a fixed lens…you limit him.
And in turn, you limit yourself.
Because whenever you view anyone through a fixed lens – let alone one of the most important relationships in your life – you yourself cease to grow.
When you view someone through a dynamic, growth-oriented lens…you yourself cannot help but grow.
It’s Time to Get More Curious About Your Father.
- There are worlds within him that you know nothing about
- He’s had impacts on your life to which you are presently oblivious
- Your present dynamic with him – whether he’s in your life or not – has the potential to be radically upgraded
Today’s episode is a call for you to get more curious about your father and your relationship with him.
You’ll be amazed at the wisdom, insights, and potential healing you will find.