Aug 19, 2019
#33: Generally speaking, men love fixing problems.
When a woman comes to you with what sounds like a problem, it can be difficult to know:
a) Is she asking me to help solve
it?
b) Is she asking me to listen?
Bryan and I have coached frustrated and exasperated men who have gone into “fix it mode” and been on the receiving end of these all-time classics:
“You’re not hearing me.”
“I just want you to listen.”
“Why are you always telling me what to do??”
Our special guest today, Blaire Lindsay, a mentor and intimacy coach to women gives one simple way of clearing it all up.
For situations when Blaire is bringing something of importance or emotionally charged to husband Chris, they’ve instituted a single, simple question that she refers to as a “lift raft.”
Chris will ask:
“Do you need empathy, or strategy right
now?”
Boom.
The elegant simplicity of this question does a few things:
Fellas, try this out and let us know how it’s working.
Blaire Lindsay primarily coaches two types of women:
Fellas, if either of these sounds like an important woman in your life, this episode has some serious insights for you:
Blaire’s Website: https://blaire-lindsay.com
Blaire’s Instagram: @BlaireLindsay
Blaire’s e-Book: Essential Orgasm